Should you kiss your little kids on the lips?
Even though it is becoming less common in our culture, it is not unusual to see since many parents kiss their children on the lips while they are still little. There are quite a few opinions on the matter including people in general, professionals stating their point of view either by studies or personal experience. Even though there might not be a general agreement on this matter, we can shed some light on this dilemma.
Some experts state that parents kissing a small child on the lips can confuse the child. They declare that as the child grows and stop being toddlers, about 5 or 6 years old, is when a child becomes more aware of their body. They believe that kissing them on the lips can awaken them sexually.
Their point of view is based on studies that have shown that kissing them on the lips can be extremely confusing. Why? They observe their parents kiss romantically on the lips, then come kiss them on the lips, confusing them about the correct roles in the family, sensations, emotions and feelings.
Then there is the discussion that it all depends about when a parents stops kissing their child on the lips. But this theory can be debunked because the age each child discovers the difference in male and females varies greatly.
I come from a family that is not very affectionate in expressing feelings. We all deeply love each other but rarely ever express it verbally or by hugging or kissing. This was something that always upset me growing up, so when I had my own family I decided to show them my affection as often as possible.
Differing opinion that it is beneficial
Other specialists declare that there are no studies that can prove that kissing children on the lips can cause some type of problem or disorder. They state that it is normal and healthy to show your children affection.
There are a few parents who continue to kiss their children on the lips throughout their lives. For many, just the idea of that turns their stomach. But the final decision of whether to kiss their children on the lips falls on the shoulders of the parents, since there is no scientific evidence that is it beneficial or prejudicial. It depends on the parents’ culture and preferences for raising their children.