Being a mom is one of the most intense and fulfilling experiences in our lives. Seeing a newborn baby causes goose bumps, even more so if it is our child. Maternity can makes us feel as if we are walking on a tightrope over a cliff, because of all of the uncertainties and trying to balance all of our new responsibilities.
However, you can do this successfully without failing your children. From the very first day that you discovered that you were pregnant, most likely you have been asking yourself “How can I be a better mom?” Most moms ask themselves that question everyday. But is it wrong to ask that question? Not at all, especially if it helps to keep our sanity and our stability. It is easy to forget that all moms make mistakes. Trying to be perfectionists can cause us to become unbalanced and unhappy. Perfection doesn’t exist today, we can only strive to be better each day and take care of our child’s needs the best way possible.
There are though some aspects that are worth considering, according to my point of view, which will helps us to be better moms without killing ourselves trying. Here are some these suggestions.
1. Comprehend that we all make mistakes
This doesn’t mean that we are negligent, just that we are human. We need to try to humbly correct our mistakes, meanwhile learning to forgive ourselves for those mistakes.
2. Trust in yourself
Trust in your principles, strengths and abilities. You can be certain that you are capable of being successful in facing any situation that arises, even though you are a new mother.
3. Avoid comparing yourself to other moms
May it be your neighbor, your mother, your sister or a follower on Facebook, never qualify your efforts with that of someone else. Social Media is packed-full of pictures of perfect mothers that lost their baby fat immediately after giving birth, whose children have no problems and of course, looking so happy. They aren’t true stories, behind your computer screen is a ton of hidden problems.
4. Don’t push yourself beyond what you can give
Nobody is born knowing how to be a perfect mom, for this reason you are allowed to cry and be frustrated. Learn to let things take their course, without trying to perfect every single detail. You will learn that you don’t need to have an answer for everything and some things fix themselves over time. Sadly, the society we live in today demands too much from mothers and the majority of mothers are working outside of the home, facing many challenges. The idea is learning to have peace of mind and being able to unwind in the middle of the storm, this will not be possible if you are constantly self-judging yourself and comparing yourself to others. By doing this you will only quash your personality. Focus on your achievements that you have done up to now.
5. Medtiate on your child’s needs and observe your child
My mother always said to “consider your children’s needs as if they were your own.” For example: Ask yourself if you are hungry, cold or tired? The chances are if you are, they are too. Observe your children and talk with them.
6. Value your daily achievements
Daily strides related to raising your children, may seem meager but they are bigger than you imagine. Even if you feel like you are making teeny tiny baby steps, never call down your accomplishments.
7. Take time for yourself
This might seem to be impossible to do, but you need to take time to rest, unwind and recuperate your energy. When you take time for yourself, don’t allow yourself to feel guilty, you deserve this and you need to learn to listen to your body. Learning to be a good mother is only possible if you love yourself and respect your rest time. This is especially important when your children are still infants or toddlers, this will help you to provide for your children’s needs when they need it most.