Many people have successfully conceived before and been devastated to learn that now they can’t. According to a survey on family growth, that in the U.S, in 2006 that more than almost 2 million couples had to deal with this issue. This condition is known as secondary infertility (SI).
If you are among this group, it can be shocking and emotionally draining. Understandably, a couple would be in disbelief when they find out they can’t conceive a second time. Sometimes, this is because with the first pregnancy, it was easy or even an accident. Each partner felt confident that they were normally fertile.
Why does this happen?
The main reason for this is your age. Perhaps, a few years have passed and you now are older than 35. Fertility declines and problems increase with ovulation as you get older. One study found that at the age of 30, women have only about 12 percent of their original eggs and by age 40, there is only about 3 percent left.
The trend is to wait to have children and many couples are starting later and planning their second pregnancy years later from the first. Situations, lifestyles and age have changed for both the man and woman.
Men, too, can also lose their sperm count or have problems with sperm motility.
Other factors could be from either menstrual cycle problems caused from hormone dysfunctions, due to polycystic ovarian syndrome and also thyroid disease. Also possible causes could be from changes in weight, stress, diabetes.
Exhaustion is also cited as a possible cause.
Use of antibiotics, steroids or antihistamine, as well as abuse of the use of tobacco, alcohol and drugs have a definite affect on reproduction.
Scarring after the first child birth or even stress can affect ovulation and sperm production.
So, as we can see, a lot can happen between the first pregnancy and the second attempt.
What happens now?
It obviously is a very stressful issue to deal with. First off, the couple must deal with well meaning or even thoughtless comments from family, friends and even strangers.
Secondly, they have to deal with the loss of a sibling for their first child. Some people deal with overwhelming feelings of grief, guilt and a sense of failure.
Finally, an infertile couple will be stressed from the invasive tests to determine why they haven’t successfully had a second child. The result puts strain on the whole family. Stress, sadness, frustration and loss all make for an unhappy home.
What options are there?
Some couples have successfully had a second child after finding out they have this issue. So, there is a chance. One has to consider side effects, cost and no guarantee of success.
The first step is to visit your doctor and ask for help. The next step would be to consult a gynaecologist or a fertility specialist. For example, your case could be due to a medical issue, such as endometriosis.
Fertility clinics and consultants do provide help. Professional help will be able to determine what is needed and if there is a chance. Surgery might be a solution.
Some women have found that a laparoscopy increased their chances.
In-vitro fertilisation has helped many couples. Another option for some women is taking a fertility medication. Donor eggs and embryos might be another solution.
Finally, there are the options also of using intrauterine insemination, intracytoplasmic sperm injection and gamete or zygote intrafallopian transfers. There are various alternative therapies which include acupuncture, hypnotherapy, reflexology and meditation.