We all know the look we get when someone doesn’t approve of us having to leave our beautiful baby and return to work. Some of us have no choice. Economics dictate it.
I know, because I HAD to and it broke my heart.
Some of the bad stuff I had to deal with was serious sleep deprivation, huge waves of guilt and feelings of failure. Emotionally, I felt like I was riding a roller coaster of emotions. My house wouldn’t stay clean, the laundry was piled up everywhere, and another shock was that my beautiful baby did cry, probably more than I’d like to admit.
What are some tips that really helped me to deal with being a working mom?
Stop being a perfectionist
Accept that it is hard, real hard. You just created a tiny human being who needs you. Adjust your expectations and priorities. Your world has changed. ADAPT.
Make the best of it! Don’t sweat the dust bunnies under the couch.
Really, I mean, REALLY relax.. Snuggle, cuddle, giggle, rock your baby and enjoy!
Be assured that, yes, you can do it! Women all over the world have successfully conquered this challenge daily. Think of all the other moms doing the same thing. It helps to have some other mom friends to talk to. The most important friend to have and to share it all with is your partner. This is their baby too, let them enjoy this great privilege and to share the good and bad with you.
Be organized and balanced
I know this is hard but the key word here is balance. In order to enjoy your family and home, there has to be some form of organization. So, look at it as your job and you are the office manager who makes sure everything gets done. It doesn’t have to be time consuming, just organized.
For example, clothes and shoes all have a place. Put them in their place when you put them down. One step. Done. Plan simple meals, prepare extra and freeze for the tough days. Dirty dishes into dishwasher then, put away all at once. Keys go in a certain spot by the door. Multi-task and save time. Lists work great.
Listen and research advice from other working mom
For example, before writing off a new idea or product, listen to what other moms are saying about it such as a breast pump, extra nursing pads, diapers, and the list goes on. I could tell you a story of an embarrassing breast milk leak all over my blouse, but just better to warn you. Maybe, tip here is to have extra clothes just in case.
Learn to say no
I know that’s hard but that’s where we all have to learn that we can only do so much. Learning to say no means learning to be kind with yourself, by investing in you as well as your new growing family. If you don’t care of yourself, you won’t be any good for those around you.
Do whatever you need to recharge – take a scroll around the block, have coffee with the girls or get your nails done – whatever works for you, just make time for it.
These are just some simple hints that will make re-entry into work less painful. Going back to work is tough but it is survivable. Combining momhood and full-time work can be challenge, but it is possible and worth the effort.